A Sudoku Kind of Life? I Wish…

I really like Sudoku. It’s rather simple in it’s complexity and I enjoy that challenge. You know there are always going to be nine squares within nine squares and the numbers one through nine will always go somewhere in that square. Each line, each column, and each square contain those numbers, 1 through 9. You may not know how, but you know they always fit…

But life is not like that. And that really is okay.

Today my son’s Rite of Passage begins. Today, he finds himself in a sacred space with men who will help him to discover what it means to be a man. I’m so excited for him to discover who he is becoming and where he will take that. As my first born child when I held him in my arms for the first time, I was so overwhelmed with the task before me.

I look back on his childhood and hope that I gave him enough love, strength and freedom. I hope that my mistakes lead to a greater strength so he can overcome his obstacles.

My son is a good boy and I can see the great man that he will become. If nothing else, I am very proud of him!

I love you Alex




Taken from Penny over @ Adventures Of The Queen Texan Zombie Goddess

Four Things:

Four Places I Go:

1. My Herb Hutch cause it smells so good, it makes me happy

2. My Closet cause I *still* can’t find my favorite outfit 😦

3. Work.. bleh…

4. I’d say the ShellyVerse, but I’d have to leave first..

Four Smells that I Love:

1. Cinnamon

2. Oranges

3. Caramel

4. The forest

Four Favorite TV Shows:

1. Fringe


3. Off The Map

4. The Event

Four Favorite Movies:

1. Burlesque _Just watched this.. I ❤ this movie!!! I have to have the soundtrack!!!

2. Miracle on 34th St

3. Kama Sutra: A Tale of Love

4. Closer

Four Recommendations:

1. You burn 500 calories for every orgasm… 340 for one hour of bellydancing…

2. Smile

3. Love like your life depended on it.. It does..

4. The Golden Rule always applies…

Four People who Should Tell us their Fours:

Oh, I know you wanna…


Is the Force Strong With You¿

I have to admit when I first came onto the pagan path, that I was extremely skeptical about this whole shebang. I mean, come on… Really, I can move or change stuff just by moving this invisible imaginatory thing you guys call energy??? Riiiiighhhht.. yeeaaaaahhhhh…

How does one tell if something is actually working or not? Sometimes it is obvious and sometimes it isn’t. Who hasn’t thought of someone only to have the phone ring and it be that person or them show up at the door? We’ve all had those little things happen.

These things really aren’t that little actually, our magick works through the strength of our bonds. Whether it be the bonds we share with our friends, the Earth, our pets/familiars, or our community, these bonds allow us greater access to our personal magick and its efficacy. In magick the axiom, No Man Is An Island is an unspoken truth.

This in no way is an opinion against Solitaires (those on the magickal path that are not part of a coven or group). Solitaires have just as deep connections and bonds as any other magickal worker. Solitaires may use different techniques or focus on different skills than covens, but their work is just as important as any other’s.

There has been lots of discussions on the blogsphere about “energy” and whether that is an accurate term or not. Call it what you will, there is definitely something occuring when a person works magick. I personally prefer to call it “the Force,” but then, I’m geeky like that.

When I think of The Force, I think of the Three Pillars of the Qabala Tree of Life. The Pillar of Mercy/Force, the Pillar of Mildness/Balance, and the Pillar of Severity/Form.

The Tree of Life, for those not familiar with it, is composed of ten spheres upon three pillars that depict the map of creation. Each sphere represents certain aspects of the necessary ingredients needed for creation. There is layer upon layer of meaning in each sphere and pillar, but basically this a theological depiction of creation.

So, the number 3 represents the first form – a triangle. With 1, you have a point; two, you have a line. the number 3 is the first solid foundation on which to build.

So back to The Force, it flows freely until it is defined within Form. When that is stabilized, Balance is created. This the science behind magick. Everything that ever has been or will be is created through and contains The Force.

Through our connections and bonds, we can tap into The Force, redefine the Form, Stabilize it and bring to Manifestation our goal.

When I began on this path, it was hit or miss whether I could sense The Force. Sometimes, I could sense it, but it was not consistent enough, much less blatant enough to convince me. Cause, lets face it, we all want magick to be the fireworks, when in actuality, it is rarely that blatant -in your face obvious.

Now, after years of training and practice, the connection is deeper and it is much easier to sense The Force. I can feel it, see it, and hear it more often than not.

Monday night it was brought completely clear to me while learning a new casting called The Sword & Staff Casting that I am learning for a ritual later this year. I was nervous and unsure, not allowing my connections to flow and nothing happened.

Well, except maybe a little snort of “Oh Really?”

So, I read through the technique again, grounded, opened my connections and cast again. And wouldn’t you know that it worked. I can still feel the residual effects from the casting and what I learned.

And it feels really good `;~)


Meanwhile, in the ShellyVerse

I’d like to tell you a fabulous story of how busy I have been and how I danced with Elephants and swam with dolphins, but that just isn’t how life has been…

oh, wait… I did do those things in my dreams last week `;~) Then of course, I had a dream about Catnip!

I have just been completely tuckered out lately. And this weather has not been helping one itty bitty bit! Could you please make up your mind???

I finally decided what to do with my Bead Soup Necklace, Bambi’s Spring Frolick ! I decided to donate it to my tradition for The New Alexandrian Library we are building. It will be available this weekend at Spring Magick in Springfield, PA.

I’ve decided to join Dancing in a Field of Tansy‘s Herball Ally 2011 challenge and picked Hyssop as my herb.

I’m very excited about My Herbal Ally. I’ve been intrigued by Hyssop since Brighid told me to add it to Her incense.

Must get some writing done now.


HeartStrong = Intelligence of the Heart, Mind & Soul in Balance

HeartStrong has been a keyword for me in the last several years. It has been what I have been striving for, but I have never been able to put into words what this means for me.

Through reading The Secret Teachings of Plants: The Intelligence of the Heart in the Direct Perception of Nature by Harold Buhner, this concept has become so clear to me. However, the doing part, I’m still working on… I wish I had found this book years ago.

I don’t think my life would have been as chaotic in some regards `;~) There was so much that I did not understand about myself and how my perception of the world worked. I don’t think I would have lost so much of myself if I had understood that I was different for a good reason, not because I was fucked up `;~)

granted I may be fucked up in some ways, but not about this `;~)

So, here I am now, trying to find my way back to my path. I find it very interesting that my path is a very grounded path considering, I have very little Earth in my natal chart… The only Earth I have in my chart is Virgo Rising…

There are two camps, about this sort of thing – no element in a chart… Camp 1, says that you don’t have issues with that element for this life engagement. Camp 2, says that you will have major issues with that element.

I think both of them are right in a way. I’m not good with money, I’m not what folks would call grounded, (stop laughing), and I’m full of whimsy `;~) Yet, at the same time, I have a strong connection to Earth and all her creatures. So strong in some cases, that it freaks me out and I run from it which creates an issue. So, yeaaahhhh….

Anyway, two of the major components of my path are dancing and herbs. I find that when I am dancing, I am at my most grounded and centered. Alot of my magick and psychism comes through dancing.

I cannot express to you how much joy I get from teaching dance. I hope that all my students come away feeling even just a smidge of the joy I do and find peace in themselves.

As for herbalism, there is nothing like better than to open the doors to my herb cabinet and just soak in all those wonderful scents. it is as if Earth, Herself, is welcoming me home!

I don’t think there will ever come a day when I wont want to just indulge myself in plants and share with them my wonder and love.

This is why I do what I do `;~)


Social Media & the Interwebs

I used to be really up on the internet and all the happening sites and programming and I loved it.. I was a programmer and I ate it up. But then, I got burnt out and my life fell apart. I got a divorce, moved too many times to count and my computer died. I couldn’t afford internet and didn’t have the time or energy to keep up on stuff since I ddn’t have to because I wasn’t programming anymore.

Now, I’m in a better place, life is good and I’m not fighting the ups and downs. My life is no longer a roller coaster called The Tornado. After almost 5 years, my life has calmed down and it no longer feels like I’m in the eye of the storm `;~)

However, teh changes in technology are mind boggling!!! I feel like I’m swimming in circles and getting no where sometimes. It has been hard to get back into the flow of the internet. Twitter makes no sense to me… It took me a long time to get up to speed with FaceBook and now that has all changed again.

Twitter does seem to be interested and a good way to find out about all the crazy things that grab folks attention, but it is bewildering.

I love blogging and am enjoying it immensly. I’ve had a livejournal for years but hated how it was so insulated in it’s own world. So I’ve enjoyed coming over to blogspot, but it is harder to find things and then I have to remember that everything isn’t right there at my fingertips and I have to go check the blogs I”m following. There is no easy way to navigate the blogosphere 😦

Do you have a website? Do you think there is a need for a website with the way blogs and the social media works today? Do you have seperate blogs and twitters for personal and business?

So, tell me what are some of the greatest new web gadgets, websites, and technology that you love? What do you absolutely love on the web today?


Products now available on Etsy

promo 15mar11

Finally getting my products up on Etsy! YAY! Please come and visit my shop, you never know, you may find the very thing you need `;~)

I currently have my Bless My Home Incense and my new product Love Be Mine . By the end of the week, I plan to have Harm Me Not Incense, a home protection incense, and Brigid’s Mantle Incense , a great incense for when the weight of the world is on your shoulders, you need to rev up your creative juices, working healing rituals for someone or Earth (She really needs to feel our love right now!!!), and more!

Some come by for a spell and visit The Shining Isle at http://begraven.etsy.com !


It’s a virtual fantasy land here with rabbits, stars, birds, and feathers `;~)


I want to thank everyone who liked my Bead Soup Necklace, I think I will call it “Bambi.” I agree with Amber Dawn Inventive Soul that is definitely shouts out BAMBI `;~) I had so much fun making this necklace! Shannon of For My Sweet Daughter made the beautiful copper etched rabbit pendant and the birdsnest too! Please go and take a loot look at her beautiful work `;~)

I hope to get back into the studio tonight and make some earrings to go with this necklace. So we will see where that takes me `;~)


Right now, I’m so excited cause my huge herb haul came in on Monday and I have been dying to get into them!!! I spent Tuesday night reading up on some ideas and I can’t wait to try them out! I also have a couple custom orders on my plate at the moment that I am really excited about `;~)

I’m also going to try my hand at making incense cones! I have some makko powder that I’m just itching to mix into some of my standard recipes and see how they compare. I might start offering incense loose and cone if it works like I’m hoping `;~)

Peacock  feather tattoo!

I finally got my peacock feather tattoo that I have been wanting for the last year. I’m so very happy with it!

I hope each and every one of ya’ll have a blessedly beautiful weekend `;~)

3rd Bead Soup Blog Party Reveal!

Welcome to the 3rd Bead Soup Blog Party!
What is a Bead Soup Blog Party?

 Each beader was paired up with another jewelry designer and tasked with sending the following:

~ A focal
~ A special clasp (not just a lobster claw)
~ Some coordinating spacers or beads

Using the focal and the clasp was mandatory, but we could use anything from our own stash to round out the rest, and choose to use the coordinating beads or not.
Here’s what I made!



Come see what the rest of us made!

1.  Lori Anderson, Pretty Things
2. Kitty Durmaj, Perles and Life 
3.  Michelle Heim, Life In the Bead Lane 
4.  Lisa Petrillo, Lucid Moon Studio
5.  Anitra Gordy, Leelu Creations
6.  Paige Maxim, Paige Maxim Designs
7.  Marianna Boylan, Pretty Shiny Things
8.  Cheryl Roe, BeadRoe
9.  Heidi Post, Ex Post Facto
10.  Cindy Wimmer, Sweet Bead Studio

11.  Terri Gauthier, Blooming Ideas
12.  Rachel Walsh, Balanced Crafts
13.  Marian Hertzog, M’s Place
14.  Mary McGraw, MK’s Musings
15.  Sarabeth Burke, Chronicles of Sarita
16.  Deci Worland, Gem Trails 
17.  Erin Prais-Hintz, Treasures Found
18.  Laura Zeiner, Stick Lizard Designs
19.  Kristin Latimer, MJM Jewelry Designs
20.  Cathryn Brooks-Williams, Chile Cats

21.  Holly Westfall, Silver Rose Designs
22.  Janna Harttgen, Palima-Lim 
23.  Libby Leuchtman, Libby Leu
24.  Rebecca Anderson, Songbeads
25.  Deb Hunter, Living On Air
26.  Diana Ptaszynski, Suburban Girl Studio
27.  Jennifer VanBenschoten, VanBeads 
28.  Margot Potter, The Impatient Crafter
29.  Cyndi Lavin, Beading Arts
30.  Courtney Breul, Beads by Breul

31.  Stefanie Teufel, Stefanie’s Sammelsurium
32.  Patricia Gasparino, My Life Under the Bus
33.  Tari Khars, Pearl and Pebble
34.  Kristi Bowman-Gruel, Kristi Bowman Design
35.  Jayne Capps, Mama’s Got to Doodle
36.  Becky Fairclough, Chameleons Designs
37.  Evie and Beth McCord, EB Bead & Metal Works
38. Lynne Bowland, Islandgirl’s Insights
39.  Barbara Lewis, Painting With Fire
40.  Lorelei Eurto, Inside the Studio

41.  Stacy Hartis, Sissy & Jack’s
42.  Jennifer Cameron, Glass Addictions
43.  Marcie Abney, La Bella Joya 
44.  Johanna Rhodes, Fire Phoenix Creations
45.  Nan Emmett, Spirit Rattles 
46.  Melissa Mesara, One Eared Pig  
47.  Amanda Davie, Articulations
48.  Cherin Poovey, Lanyard Lady
49.  Virginia Joste, ViviBijoux

50.  Andrew Thornton, The Writing and Art of Andrew Thornton
51.  Lori Dorrington, Lori’s Glassworks
52.  Melanie Brooks, Earthenwood Studio Chronicles
53.  Kate Gardenghi, Tropical Blonde
54.  Serena Trent, PinkIce Jewel’s Blog
55. Malin de Koning, Beading by Malin de Koning
56.  Shai Williams, Shaiha’s Ramblings
57.  Francy Inman, 8 Second Studio 
58.  Amy Freeland, Copper Diem
59.  Lisa Liddy, Joolz By Lisa

60.  Sandi Lee James,  Do Be Do Bead Do
61.  Mary Harding, Mary Harding Bead Blog 
62.  Stacey Curry, Star Hitched Wagon
63.  Leslie Gidden, Mad Maggie Designs
64.  Elisabeth Auld, Beads For Busy Gals
65.  Niky Sayers, Silver Nik Nats
66.  Linda Djokic, Lutka and Co.
67.  Tracy Bell, Copper, Glass, and Recycled Trash
68.  Laurel Steven, Rue’s Daftique
69.  Ingrid McCue, Wrapped In Silver

70.  Birgitta Lejonklou, Create With Spirit
71.  Diana Hawkey, Diana Hawkey
72.  Norma Turvey, Moonlit Fantaseas
73.  Jeanette Ryan, Jeanette Blix
74.  Jackie Ryan, Silver Lodge Gems
76.  Debbie Goering, Prairie Emporium 
77.  Valerie Norton, Hot Art 
78.  Jana Trupovniece, Stories of the Secret Garden  
79.  Amy Severino, Amy Beads 

80.  Emma Thomas, Fred Beans Nook
81.  Karen Zanco, Everyday Gypsy
82.  Suzann Sladcik Wilson, Beadphoria
83.  Janet McDonald, Singing Woods
84.  Dana James, Dana’s Jewelry Designs
85.  Kristina Johansson, Wild Roses and Blackberries
86.  CJ Bauschka, CJ Bauschka
87.  Angela Barribea, Re: Angela Rae
88. Marcy Lamberson, Studio Marcy
89.  Tanya Floyd, Glass Migrations

90.  Lisa Kavanaugh, Beading Bliss
91.  Sue Hodgkinson, Hello Gorgeous 
92.  Jenni Connolly, Jenni’s Bead 
93.  Nally Parfyonova, Nally’s Creations 
94.  Karyn White, Releases By Rufydoof  
95. Emanda Johnson, Artemisia Studio 
96.  Sandy Richardson, Sandy’s Coloring Box
97.  Cindy Dolezal,  Cindy Dolezal Designs 
98.  Stacie Stamper, Park Avenue
99. Mallory Hoffman, For the Love of Beads

101.  Nicole Valentine-Rimmer, N. Valentine Studio
102.  Jacinta Meyers, Jamberrysong’s Creations 
103.  Charlene Gary, Gray Girl Studios
104.  Rubiee Hayes, Glitter and Keys Galore
105.  Marge Beebe, Rock Creek Creations
106.  Elizabeth Freeman, Turquoise Sky
107.  Shelby Foxwell, Sundown Bead Designs Rhetoric
108.  Lynda Moseley, Diva Designs
109.  Grace Danel,  Grace Beading
110.  Lois Moon, Que Onda Quitman

111.  Agnes Shapiro, Beader Bubbe 
112.  Terry Carter, Tapping Flamingo 
113.  Judy Glende, Judith B. Designs
114.  Mary Ellen Parker, Bee Tree By Me
115. Barbara Bechtel, Second Surf
116.  Charlene Sevier, The Bead Dreamer
117. Alice Craddick, Alice’s Beads and Baubles 
118.  Cory Celaya, Art With Moxie 
119.  Ronda Adams, The Ravished Heart 
120.  Sandi Volpe, Sandi Volpe Designs 

121. Anna Lear, The Laughing Raven 
122. Susie Hibdon, Vintagesusie & Wings  
123.  Amanda Austin, Sea Shore Glass 
124.  Jennifer Velasquez, Jen Judd Rocks 
125.  Hazel Ward, All Those Things 
126.  Brenda Salzano, Salzanos 
127.  Dee Gordon, Runako Designs by Dee 
128.  Anna Denisova, Anita-M 
129.  Margaret Saari, Mags-Jewelry

130.  Genea Crivello-Knable, Genea Beads 
131.  Penny Neville, Copper Penny
132.  Angela Blasingame, Hopemore
133. Helena Fritz, Beadwork by H’s Blog
134. Stephanie LaRose, Confessions of a Bead Hoarder
135. Stephanie Haussler, PixyBug Designs
136. Diane Cook, Rosa & Josies  
137.  Maryse Thillens, Glass Bead Art
138.  Jennifer Pride, Jewelry by J.P.
139.  Shannon Chomanczuk, For My Sweet Daughter

140.  Lisa Godfrey, Bead Happy
141.  Heather Pyle, Welcome to My  Muse
142.  Regina Santerre, Regina’s Writings
143.  Liz DeLuca, Creative Arty Facts
144.  Sig Wynne-Evans, Beaded Bear’s Nonsense
145.  Loretta Carstensen, Loretta’s Boutique
146.  Raida Disbrow, Havana Beads 
147.  Amber Dawn, Inventive Soul 
148.  Shelly Graves, Stars Dance With Me   You are Here
149.  Jess Italia Lincoln, Vintaj Blog 

150. JJ Jacobs, Coming Abstractions
151.  Carrie Tahquechi, Carrie T
152.  Staci Smith, Staci Louise Originals
153.  Katarzyna Kwiatkowska, Quiet Area 
154.  Ema Kilroy, Ema K Designs
155. Magdalena Sikora, Poranna Gazeta
156.  Nicole Keller, Nicki’s Reef
157.  Ann Rishell, My Critical Eye
158.  Noemi Baena, Fire, Metal, and Color 
159. Christa Murphy, Adventures of One Beady Woman 

160.  Barbara Blaszczyk, Labotorium Flory
161.  Collette Collins, Firefly Myst
162.  Carola Greiser, Polymer Clay Shed
163.  Joanna Kopijczuk, Bizuteria z Filcu
164. LeAnn Weih, Summers Studio 
165.  Cassandra Watsham, Design by Cassandra
166. Anna Motz, Stunning
167.  Shea Zukowski, Gr8findings
168.  Susan Kennedy, Sue Beads
169.  Lisa Boucher, Lisa’s Clay Happenings

170.  Hope Smitherman, Crafty Hope
171.  Alison Crenshaw, Beads by Earth Tones
172.  Dorcas Midkiff, Wondrous Strange Designs 
173.  Melissa Rediger, Sea of Glass 
174.  Marina Dobrynina, Savon Feutre  
176.  Menka Gupta, Menka’s Blog
177. Patsy Evins, Patsy Evins Studio
178.  Cherrie Fick, En La Lumie’re
179.  Suzette Bentley, Ellie’s Bijoux

180.  Molly Alexander, Beautifully Broken Me
181.  Lyn Foley, Lyn Foley Wearable Art
183. Natalie Schuetz, Natalie S Perlen 
184. Kim Hutchinson, Running on Ink
185. Haley Frank, Wide Eyed Smilin 
186. Grace Caputo, Suddenly Last Summer
187. Marie-Noel Voyer-Cramp, Skye Jewels 
188. Erin Siegel, Erin Siegel Jewelry 
189.  Janea McDonald, Organized Chaos

190.  Kristi Evenson, Colie Bug & Co.
191.  Linda Inhelder, Must Haves Jewelry
192.  Hilary Frye, FryeStyle
193. Whitney Lassini, Whitney Lassini
194. Nancy Schindler, The Rabbit Muse
195. Pam Brisse, The Blue Between
196. Beth Bricker, Vintage Sweets
197.  Ruthie Stickney, Rose Works Jewelry and Gifts
198.  Rose Noble, Lady Noble Designs
199. Karen Williams, Baublicious

200.  Claire Maunsell, The Next Bend
201.  Christine Damm, Stories They Tell
202.  Kerry Bogert, Kab’s Creative Concepts
203.  Wendy Blum, Sand & Sea Designs
204.  Juli Cannon, Julsbeads
205.  Jenny Robledo, La Dona Boutique
206.  Krista French, French Elegant Jewelry
207.  Pam Krinski, Ewa Beads
208.  Melissa Meman, Melissa Meman, Art, Life, Love
209.  Dana Jones, Dana’s Jewelry
210.  Shirley Moore, Beads and Bread

The next party’s sign ups begin August 1-3, 2011.  Don’t miss it!

(((( If you happen to reference me, reference my main blog, http://www.PrettyThingsBlog.com, rather than the soup page)